If you have friends and relationships that are causing you harm rather than enriching your life it is totally okay to cut ties and work on having the life that YOU want and deserve. It is okay to put yourself first sometimes. So please, make the choices that are best for YOU. But only if it is healthy for the both of us and make both of our lives better. I hope that maybe one day we can reconcile and learn to accept each other’s differences. But after a point it reached a level of toxicness that snuck up on us so quickly that I had to end it because I knew that we would only hurt each other and ourselves further. We understood each other like no one else. I had a friend who was my closest confidant for about a decade. On the flip side, I’ve done the same thing in the past. In the end, I want her to be happy and healthy and if that means I’m not part of her life then so be it.

But, her opinion is the important one and if she says that’s the case, then I will take her word for it. I wanted to be a good friend, I didn’t understand why I wasn’t. I was sad that I wasn’t healthy for her anymore. When I looked at my friend’s email from that perspective it made more sense. Even if it means that you say goodbye to a friend you’ve known forever, it is okay for you make the decision to go a separate path for your own sake. But when it comes down to relationships choosing a healthy choice is ALWAYS best. A selfless attitude is always best and it will get you far in life. There are very few things in the world I feel like you should be selfish about. It’s hard to have someone cut ties with you, so naturally if you have a friend that you’ve known for years you don’t want to hurt them and in fact you feel oblligated to continue the friendship.

But since then I have come to an important realization that everyone should know: it is okay to cut ties. So the loss of this friend was very hard and for a while I was very bitter and upset. She listed off a bunch of reasons about why she didn’t want me as a friend anymore and even included a list of things that I did that hurt her, things that she could’ve told me about a year ago and that I would’ve gladly apologized for.Īs I said, I have only a few close friends. This girl, who I thought was one of my best friends, informed me through a cold email that she no longer wanted to be my friend. This email was really hurtful and this is really the first time I’m ever talking about it. I get uncomfortable really fast and I’m not sure what to say.Ī few months ago I recieved an email from someone who I considered to be one of my closest friends. I’m one of those people who don’t really know how to handle more than a few people at a time. Some people have really large circles and they thrive off the attention from many people. I’ve always been that person who only has a few close friends.

Holly Hearts Hollywood by Kenley Conrad